There is this girl in Won’s life that really pisses me off! She’s known Won for 7 years now, much longer than me. And in the beginning she used to be nice to me but now that she realizes I’m here to stay, she’s turned on me! She’s so jealous of Won and I. She always tries to separate us, I can’t stand it! Every time we try to kiss or cuddle, she makes it really awkward for us so can’t do what we want to do! She spends ALL her time with us so that we can’t get any alone time.

When Won’s around she pretends to be so nice and cute. But when Won isn’t there and it’s just me and her she’s sooo mean to me! And when I need help she just ignores me no matter how many times I ask her. Then when I try to help her, she gets mad at me. She even fights with me over food, she’s so petty! She just wants to use me for free food. She’s such a freeloader. And she has no shame! This year Won bought her a shirt for Christmas and she wore it EVERY SINGLE day!

And she’s so creepy! I’ve caught her multiple times just sniffing Won’s old shirts. Won just laughs and say it must be his cologne that she loves but I hate it! Ughhh! She waits around all day for him to come home from work. She’s even all over his facebook!

And to top it all off.. she’s sooooooooooooooo much cuter than I’ll ever be
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Hahahahaha. She’s so cute! Such a little booger. I love her! I don’t hate her. But everything else I said is true! She’s obsessed with Won! And we really do think she gets jealous. She always hops in bed between us or hops on the sofa between us. But she’s so cute, I don’t even mind! I love cuddling with her. And sometimes, she IS mean to me but that’s because I have to be the bad guy and give her baths and wash her face when she’s dirty while Won just plays with her, dirt and all. Hahahaha. <3 <3 <3 <3

I read a front page blog about how frightening it is to meet the parents, especially Korean parents. I’ve always gotten along with my Korean in laws so I never thought much of it. But after reading that post, I sure do feel lucky.

It makes sooo much sense now whenever I tell Koreans that my boyfriend is Korean, they ALWAYS ask me..“…. uh.. have you met his mom?” with a look of fear on their faces. Lol. And when I say, “yes, I have. She’s really good to me.” They have this… “okay.. if you say so” response as if they don’t believe me.

Are Korean moms really THAT bad? I mean, I thought it was weird the first time meeting them, his parents asked if I could have babies safely because I was so small. But now that I think about it.. that IS interrogating! hahaha. I kidddd…

Won’s parents have been so good to me! They seem to really adore me so far. Even from the first time I met his mother, she gave me a hug and told me to not spend any money and to tell Won to buy me anything I wanted. She’s waaaay more affectionate than I’d ever thought Asian parents could be, more than my own mother is to me.  And she’s super nosy in a good way, like she wants to make sure I’m well taken care of. Like, she goes into my luggage and folds my underwear into neat little squares type of nosy because she wants to take care of me. Or she tells me she’s going to buy me “animal pajamas” while doing sexy poses. I can only assume she’s going to be buying me some cheetah print lingerie. Hahahahahahaha. That’s MY Korean umma for you.

So I thought she is just a really affectionate and funny person but Won told me she’s really warm to me. More than to any other girls he’s dated. That and when I saw how she treats her daughter’s boyfriend with such obvious in yo face hatred I realized how lucky I am. The way she glares at him is enough to send chills up MY spine. Yet she’s always cuddling my face and giving me kisses and getting teary eyed when she talks about mine and Won’s future. And how I “belong to her” now.

But aside from all that, I really do feel the love. Won’s Korean parents REALLY do love me AS I AM. As a college drop out, as an artist, as a mini little thing that gets tired all the time. I have always been really self conscious that I dropped out of school because my dad said that no educated guy’s family will want to marry a girl like me. But even with Won being the super genius who scored in the top 4% of the GMATS, his family loves me as I am. They are so impressed with what I’ve accomplished with my business, they even want me to take their one and only daughter under my wings. They are okay with me being low energy and are happy to make the bed so I can nap all day. Like when their daughter’s boyfriend wakes up at noon umma complains about how lazy he is and she can’t stand it. But when I sleep in till noon, umma comes in and kisses me and asks me if I slept okay and had enough rest. I felt horribly guilty but they treat it like it’s the cutest thing I can do.

They only ask of me ONE thing, and that is to learn to speak Korean. So I’ve been learning little phrases here and there. And even though it takes me like 3 minutes to wish Umma Merry Christmas in Korean, she shows it off and makes me to say it to his dad too. Lol, there goes another 3 minutes.

His parents are sooo good to me sometimes it’s makes me a little scared, like… I don’t want to disappoint them one day! Or what if I mess up something horribly? And why ARE they so nice to me? They want a grand baby! Hahahaha. But it’s great because I just have to me! I did not put up a front and pretend to be the perfect little girlfriend when we first started dating and they still liked me! So I just have to continue being myself. And learn more Korean phrases.

Anybody know any FEMALE Korean tutors in the San Francisco area? Thanks!

This was my first Christmas with Won Choe!

We did the whole take the bus downtown to see the Union Square Christmas Tree thing. It wasn’t as romantic as I had imagined but it’s fun going anywhere with yobo! For Christmas day we went to my favorite dim sum place, where I got my shirt dirty cuz I was too engrossed in eating to remember to be lady like

Night time we went to Christmas dinner at my cousins! Dinner, games, and presents!

Yummmm! I was very excited cuz we’ve never had prime rib at dinner before! It’s always been too American for us but this year my cousin made it

Lol my poor baby! He’s Korean so he got some Korean noodles from his Secret Santa!

Hehe just kidding!

When it was my turn for my present, I was told to “make way!”

OMG! What’s under there! I was too scared to open it so I made my cousin open it for me. Hahaha

My brother hand built me an elevated garden trough! YAY!!! I can now grow my own organic veggie garden! I can’t wait until spring. I need to go buy some dirt. Hehe. 

Yay! Our first Christmas together! Cheers to that

It has been a wonderful couple of weeks with all my friends, family, and boyfriend in town!

Jenny and I went shopping downtown at the new Forever21. It’s so nice and high end looking that Jenny didn’t believe it was Forever21! I bought a fluffy shirt to wear for Christmas day!

Except I couldn’t wait so I wore it to my friend’s birthday clubbing. I only have one picture from before I left my house because as soon as I got to the club, I had to take the birthday girl home already (Lol! Can’t be too drunk in public!). And the rest of the night was a blur! A fun blur, during which I forgot to take pictures!

I forgot how cute pointed toe shoes were! I haven’t worn these in years! But too bad they don’t come in platform. Haha. Anyhow, the long sleeves were a good call cuz I was able to squeeze a long sleeve shirt underneath that to stay warm! Yobo says I’m a pudgey little thing. Lol! I can’t help it! Gotta keep warm in the winter!

Next up: Derrick’s birthday!

I got a chopstick packet with 3 chopsticks! Freaky!

Happy Birthday cake… and milk

My friends from high school who I try to see now at least once a year! I hope we keep up this tradition forever and ever and ever!

In case you haven’t figured it out or this is your first time on this blog, you would know that I fall in the first extreme of my 2 previous blogs ago about the extreme relationships. Like I said, in my mind it’s always been NORMAL. But after so many people comment on it, I had to think it over. And I decided to write a disclaimer on it.

I’ll be the first to admit that it’s easy to look in on someone’s relationship and make judgements and think we know better for that relationship or for our own relationship. But I have to keep in mind to be open minded because I guess unless you are in that specific relationship, it’s hard to know what REALLY goes on in there.

Like my relationship. Sure, everyone who sees my pictures, read my blogs, or even talks to either one of us (not just me) will think Won spoils me so much with presents and extravagant dates. And it doesn’t seem like I do much for him except make him take pictures with me (or of me). So here is a little insider on our relationship:

- Won DOES spoil me a lot.

hahahahahaha. Okay. There is more to it than that. He doesn’t blindly spoil me. For everything he buys for me, he’s already put his foot down for the other 50 ridiculous things I wanted. He buy what he can for me and I love him oodles for it!  I don’t think he knows this but I am actually REALLY in love his brain more than his wallet. I love how he does my excel sheets for my business. And how he plans my finances and has taught me how to change my money management. He’s a smartie

Anyhow, that’s just the way Won is. It’s not that I beg to be spoiled. He just does it naturally. His dad spoils his mom. Won spoils his mom. Won spoils his sister. He even talks about how one of his favorite thing about being a father is that he can spoil his daughters rotten. Lol.

- I don’t really spoil Won back in the same way he spoils me but I spoil his family instead. I spend a lot of money buying gifts for his parents and taking his sister shopping and hanging out. I don’t mind it at all. I’m happy spending the day just watching tv with his mom or watching youtube with his sister. I’m glad they love me back Lol once Won’s dad hugged me in excitement from the souvenir I bought him. Won complained about how his dad never even hugged him before!

- When people find out I’m with a Korea guy, they always ask if he’s like the stereotype: possessive and controlling. Yes. Yes he is. For someone who lives a 2 hour flight away, he ALWAYS knows where I am with who and doing what. He probably calls me at least 5 times a day just to ask what I’m doing. But what people don’t know is that I’m WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY crazier than he is. Hahahahha I won’t say what I do cuz I don’t want you to know how crazy I REALLY am!

But even if I wasn’t crazy myself. I love him the way he is. I feel protected knowing that Won has tabs on me in case I go missing or need help or something then Won will know how to get to me.

- Won is A LOT harder on himself than I will ever be on him. On the surface it seems like I’m the one who wants him to have a high paying job. Or to get into a great grad school. Or to buy a big shiny ring. I mean, yes I do to a certain degree. But either he REALLY internalizes it or he already expects the best from himself. So when things don’t go his way, he beats himself up over it. Me? I’ve yet to see any of his bumps in the road as a negative thing. To me, they are just bumps in the road and I know he’s so intelligent and adaptable that there is always a different better road waiting for him.

I’m having a hard time trying to get my point across. Maybe because it’s 2AM and I’m not thinking straight anymore. Oh well. I tried

In high school, I was on an all girl’s dance drill team. Once a year we still try to get together. It doesn’t happen often because everyone is in different states with different schools, jobs, and family functions but we try! This year I planned for our reunion dinner to be at buffet Kome, hehe. Of course, the first girls to arrive are 45 minutes late. I come in last at 1 hour and 15 minutes late to my own dinner! Not to mention I didn’t recognize the girls when I came so as they’re waving at me to sit down, I stare at them and walk away. LOL.

Anyhow!

I was sooooo freaking hungry! I hadn’t eaten all day! But typical me I go for all the shelled foods which meant at the end of dinner I still wasn’t full. 4 plates to myself and I could have still eaten more! Lol. Next time  I have to remember to eat SOME carbs to fill up!

After dinner we played a game of white elephant. I had never played before because I hate things that are competitive and from what I hear, it’s a competitive game. I thought I would just play along and not really get involved. But it ended up being one of the most INTENSE games of my life!! Seriously! I was not too proud to cut deals with people behind backs and make promises I couldn’t keep! Hahaha. I’ve never been so shady before. But it was sooooo much fun!

With our new winnings! … My shirt is by far the ugliest.. : (

We still wanted to hang out after dinner. I suggested ice skating but it was already too late. Someone suggested the mall but no one wanted to spend money. So I suggested we go to the neighborhood with all the lit up houses! So cheesey! But it’s okay, I’m a cheesey person!

Somebody REALLY liked the bow on this house so we had to do a group pic. I couldn’t climb up there or even to sit on the ledge. Too many layers!!

Lol. Trespassing to do silly poses. But I got to hold a moose’s hand!

Look who we found at the very last house we walked to!!! SANTA!!

I can’t wait until next year when we get together again    (I know you girls still read this xanga so thank you for coming this year! <3 <3 <3 It means a lot to each of us that you take the time and effort to reconnect with the girls! And I hope in future years, more and more of us girls are able to make it!)

I know some girls who hate seeing other girl’s boyfriends hold their girlfriend’s purse in public. Or when the boyfriend gives into their girlfriend’s ridiculous demands for extravagant trips and events. Or how some girls look down upon the boyfriend when he works really hard to save up for a gift for their girlfriend. Or how he wakes up at 3AM to make sure she’s awake for her work. And then he drives her and waits for her. I guess they see the boys as being weak and whipped by the girlfriend. And they see the girlfriends as being ungrateful and unreasonably demanding.

Well, I think they’re just haters. Hahahha. I kid.

To me, that behavior is perfectly normal and seen as very sweet. I am completely biased but I’ve always thought the guy should chase the girl and give the girl the world, on a silver platter because that’s what most girls want, to be a princess. If a guy loves her, he will do it for her.

Then there are relationships where it’s obvious the girl is chasing the guy. And she’s the one going all the extra miles accommodating to him. Like always driving to his house. Always waiting on his schedule. Planning her future around his decisions for school or work.

I think I find it REALLY weird when I talk to my girlfriends who are in those type of relationships and the subject of domestic abuse comes up. Of course, never in their own relationship, but we’ll talk about abuse we hear about on the news or through other friends. And a lot of the times the girls will say something to the tune of how the girl deserved it because of what she did to him before. Or somehow, she should have fought harder for herself.

These talks always set off an alarm in me. Because in my eyes, no matter who did or said what, for the most part a guy can beat the crap out of a girl when it comes to pure strength and rage. Because of this, a boyfriend is supposed to protect his girlfriend, not beat her. Or when he hates her, just leave her alone. Sometimes it makes me wonder if these friends of mine WERE in an abusive relationship, would they know it? Would they tell anyone? Would they even fight it?

The ideal situation is a relationship somewhere between the two extremes. But I guess every couple whistle to their own tune. Where do you fall in the spectrum?

I was reading on the xanga front page about how to properly reject someone. Apparently, you’re supposed to give them a reason WHY you are rejecting them. Not just say.. “no thank you.” Because you will drive that person insane so you should give them a peace of mine.

I remember in high school one of my best guy friend admitted over AIM that he liked me. So I frantically asked my guy cousin what to do! I was instructed to say, “I think you’re a nice guy and a good friend but I don’t like you like that.” He seemed to take it well and say thank you or something. Lol we stopped being friends or even acquaintances after that!

Personally I think when you’re in love with someone, it doesn’t matter what the reason is, because you’re going to think it’s something you can change. Like you’re ugly? plastic surgery! You’re too fat? Diet! You’re too dumb? go to school. Because for your love, at the end of the day you’ll do ANYTHING to be with them. 

Obviously any reason you give is going to be a bad one. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by insulting them with a list of reasons why I don’t like them. And I don’t want anyone telling me my shortcomings (Unless you love me enough to help me improve myself and by that I mean you aren’t rejecting me)

If they don’t tell you… sure you can wonder over anguish the 1000000 reasons why they didn’t love you. Or you can do what I do, “He MUST be gay!”

Hahahaha just kidding. I don’t do that.

Would you rather know or not?

As quiet of a person as I am, I actually REALLY LOVE the holiday rush. I mean, when I’m not the one needing to rush. I just enjoy taking it easy whilst there is holiday madness around me. Yesterday was just that. Lunch, ice skating, browsing downtown, and Beard Papa’s dessert to seal our girls day!

Getting ready to head out! I put on as many layers as I could underneath that sweater. Ugh! It’s so hard to look skinny in winter wear!

Getting our skates on. I swear.. how is this giant related to me?

 
Keeping balance! Its been 2 years since I last ice skated so it took some time for me to get used to it again.

Just hanging out. Yay us! We didn’t fall even once! Can’t say the same for everyone else in there!

Me, trying to teach myself how to skate backwards. Its really really really really hard!

Getting tired! Oh man my legs were sooooooooooo sore by night time!

Me and mommy! .. playing with snow we scraped up from the ice rink. Hahahahah.
I just got my hair done the day before. It took 6 hours in the salon chair to get this color! In case you don’t remember my old hair..

I think I prefer the black. But I’ll keep the light highlights for a year or so since it took soooooo much work! And the stylist did an amazing job. I’m just not used to it on me. I miss my intense black amazon woman hair

 
After ice skating we decided to walk the whole 1 mile to downtown San Francisco. Of course making pit stops along the way to enjoy the beautiful holiday decorations. Lol!

Mum and I! These were just soooo cute!

Even the parking garage was sparking and bright! Time to go home and rest my little legs.

I can’t wait for yobo to get here for Christmas. There is sooooooooooooo much I want to take him to see in the holiday spirit! Hope no one is feeling the holiday blues. There is so much beauty and lights out there to enjoy with your friends and family!

My friend shared this great article on facebook. I thought this is a GREAT new years resolutions list for me. My commentary is in red.

Pay Down Debt
You’ve heard it before, but paying down any debt, regardless of how small, saves you money and makes you feel a little better about your finances. Start with a small debt and use the money you saved to pay down another debt. I’m so proud of myself. Ever since I paid off my credit cards 2 years ago, I’ve never been in CC debt again! It’s great because they keep raising my limits and giving me more cards with rewards! Car bought in full. The only debt I can think of is my school loan. But it’s doable by June 2013! Yay! 

Cut Out a Luxury
Cut out your Starbucks twice per week and you’ve saved $416 a year. Put that $416 towards debt, or put it in your Individual Retirement Account (IRA). Over 20 years, that $416 invested that you saved each year, would turn into $15,500. This is hard because I can be a shop a holic. But ever since yobo started buyin things for me, I will shop less… hopefully. And I am going to learn how to open an IRA.

Save
We live in a world where saving is like flossing. We know we should, but we don’t do it enough. The top 1% have made saving a habit. Some of the 1% still report that they shop with coupons. This is a habit I started in the later 1/3 of this year. I was only able to save roughly 15% of what I made. My goal next year is 30%!

Live Within Your Means
Billionaire Warren Buffett still lives in the modest home he purchased in 1958 for $31,500. Are you living within your means? If you do it now, your “means” will rise as you save more. No more excessive shopping. I’m actually going to enroll in the sewing & fashion classes next year so I can start making my own clothes and not spend money buying much anymore. YAY!

Don’t Play the Lottery
There’s a reason the lottery is often referred to as a tax on the poor. You won’t get rich playing the lottery or gambling on anything. Checked! I don’t part with money without some sort of guaranteed gratification.

Don’t Day Trade
An Austrailian study followed a group of day traders and found that 70% lost money and the other 30% had a high risk of ruin. They were only able to make a small profit, because they had one or two great trades, among a long list of bad choices. The top 1% invest for the long term. Checked! I don’t know how to. Don’t plan on learning anytime soon.

Buy at a Discount
Never pay full price for anything. Be patient with all purchases and wait for the sale. You can buy everything cheaper than the sticker price, somehow. Figure out how to do that. Checked! Boo yah! My retail friends are on speed dial. I have all the makeup brands covered. Bebe, my favorite shoe store ever is covered. And I even have mens clothing and sport stores covered, for when I buy gifts for yobo. Hahaha

Use Your Talents
Regardless of what you do for a living, you have talents that are untapped in your life. Use your hobby as an income source or use your day job skills to moonlight as an independent worker. Hm… I already turned my hobby into a living. But… maybe I can sell the clothes I make? Anybody wanna pre-order?

Self-Promote
Nobody likes an ego, but the 1% got ahead because of their contacts. Use your relationships to get some face time with other people. Mental note to SPEAK OUTLOUD more and introduce myself to more people and not be afraid to ask for help!

Believe in Yourself
Winners are winners, because they do what winners do. Winners know that they’re not victims of circumstances, because those circumstances are new opportunities. Winners know that they have value and they know that often, the difference between the winner and the loser was not intelligence, but drive and initiative. Go after what you want and don’t look at economic headwinds. You may not make it to the 1%, but to live a prosperous life you don’t have to be remotely close. I can do it!! : D

The Bottom Line
It may be a challange for the average American to reach the top 1%, but these tips, if followed properly, are a step in the right direction. They are certain to help the average family get above the median household income. YAY! One step closer to lavish wedding and household full of babies!

Are you already doing some of these things? Are you going to add any of them your New Years Resolution list? Good luck everyone! 2012 is the year of the Dragon! MY special lucky year!!! I hope I get a lucky baby.. hahahahahahaha ;p