December 21, 2011

• Disclaimer on Being Extreme

  In case you haven’t figured it out or this is your first time on this blog, you would know that I fall in the first extreme of my 2 previous blogs ago about the extreme relationships. Like I said, in my mind it’s always been NORMAL. But after so many people comment on it, I had to think it over. And I decided to write a disclaimer on it.
  
  I’ll be the first to admit that it’s easy to look in on someone’s relationship and make judgements and think we know better for that relationship or for our own relationship. But I have to keep in mind to be open minded because I guess unless you are in that specific relationship, it’s hard to know what REALLY goes on in there.
  
  Like my relationship. Sure, everyone who sees my pictures, read my blogs, or even talks to either one of us (not just me) will think Won spoils me so much with presents and extravagant dates. And it doesn’t seem like I do much for him except make him take pictures with me (or of me). So here is a little insider on our relationship:
  
  - Won DOES spoil me a lot.
  
  hahahahahaha. Okay. There is more to it than that. He doesn’t blindly spoil me. For everything he buys for me, he’s already put his foot down for the other 50 ridiculous things I wanted. He buy what he can for me and I love him oodles for it!  I don’t think he knows this but I am actually REALLY in love his brain more than his wallet. I love how he does my excel sheets for my business. And how he plans my finances and has taught me how to change my money management. He’s a smartie
  
  Anyhow, that’s just the way Won is. It’s not that I beg to be spoiled. He just does it naturally. His dad spoils his mom. Won spoils his mom. Won spoils his sister. He even talks about how one of his favorite thing about being a father is that he can spoil his daughters rotten. Lol.
  
  - I don’t really spoil Won back in the same way he spoils me but I spoil his family instead. I spend a lot of money buying gifts for his parents and taking his sister shopping and hanging out. I don’t mind it at all. I’m happy spending the day just watching tv with his mom or watching youtube with his sister. I’m glad they love me back Lol once Won’s dad hugged me in excitement from the souvenir I bought him. Won complained about how his dad never even hugged him before!
  
  - When people find out I’m with a Korea guy, they always ask if he’s like the stereotype: possessive and controlling. Yes. Yes he is. For someone who lives a 2 hour flight away, he ALWAYS knows where I am with who and doing what. He probably calls me at least 5 times a day just to ask what I’m doing. But what people don’t know is that I’m WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY crazier than he is. Hahahahha I won’t say what I do cuz I don’t want you to know how crazy I REALLY am!
  
  But even if I wasn’t crazy myself. I love him the way he is. I feel protected knowing that Won has tabs on me in case I go missing or need help or something then Won will know how to get to me.
  
  - Won is A LOT harder on himself than I will ever be on him. On the surface it seems like I’m the one who wants him to have a high paying job. Or to get into a great grad school. Or to buy a big shiny ring. I mean, yes I do to a certain degree. But either he REALLY internalizes it or he already expects the best from himself. So when things don’t go his way, he beats himself up over it. Me? I’ve yet to see any of his bumps in the road as a negative thing. To me, they are just bumps in the road and I know he’s so intelligent and adaptable that there is always a different better road waiting for him.
  
  I’m having a hard time trying to get my point across. Maybe because it’s 2AM and I’m not thinking straight anymore. Oh well. I tried

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