December 28, 2011

• Korean Umma

  I read a front page blog about how frightening it is to meet the parents, especially Korean parents. I’ve always gotten along with my Korean in laws so I never thought much of it. But after reading that post, I sure do feel lucky.

  It makes sooo much sense now whenever I tell Koreans that my boyfriend is Korean, they ALWAYS ask me..“…. uh.. have you met his mom?” with a look of fear on their faces. Lol. And when I say, “yes, I have. She’s really good to me.” They have this… “okay.. if you say so” response as if they don’t believe me.

  Are Korean moms really THAT bad? I mean, I thought it was weird the first time meeting them, his parents asked if I could have babies safely because I was so small. But now that I think about it.. that IS interrogating! hahaha. I kidddd…

  Won’s parents have been so good to me! They seem to really adore me so far. Even from the first time I met his mother, she gave me a hug and told me to not spend any money and to tell Won to buy me anything I wanted. She’s waaaay more affectionate than I’d ever thought Asian parents could be, more than my own mother is to me.  And she’s super nosy in a good way, like she wants to make sure I’m well taken care of. Like, she goes into my luggage and folds my underwear into neat little squares type of nosy because she wants to take care of me. Or she tells me she’s going to buy me “animal pajamas” while doing sexy poses. I can only assume she’s going to be buying me some cheetah print lingerie. Hahahahahahaha. That’s MY Korean umma for you.

  So I thought she is just a really affectionate and funny person but Won told me she’s really warm to me. More than to any other girls he’s dated. That and when I saw how she treats her daughter’s boyfriend with such obvious in yo face hatred I realized how lucky I am. The way she glares at him is enough to send chills up MY spine. Yet she’s always cuddling my face and giving me kisses and getting teary eyed when she talks about mine and Won’s future. And how I “belong to her” now.

  But aside from all that, I really do feel the love. Won’s Korean parents REALLY do love me AS I AM. As a college drop out, as an artist, as a mini little thing that gets tired all the time. I have always been really self conscious that I dropped out of school because my dad said that no educated guy’s family will want to marry a girl like me. But even with Won being the super genius who scored in the top 4% of the GMATS, his family loves me as I am. They are so impressed with what I’ve accomplished with my business, they even want me to take their one and only daughter under my wings. They are okay with me being low energy and are happy to make the bed so I can nap all day. Like when their daughter’s boyfriend wakes up at noon umma complains about how lazy he is and she can’t stand it. But when I sleep in till noon, umma comes in and kisses me and asks me if I slept okay and had enough rest. I felt horribly guilty but they treat it like it’s the cutest thing I can do.

  They only ask of me ONE thing, and that is to learn to speak Korean. So I’ve been learning little phrases here and there. And even though it takes me like 3 minutes to wish Umma Merry Christmas in Korean, she shows it off and makes me to say it to his dad too. Lol, there goes another 3 minutes.

  His parents are sooo good to me sometimes it’s makes me a little scared, like… I don’t want to disappoint them one day! Or what if I mess up something horribly? And why ARE they so nice to me? They want a grand baby! Hahahaha. But it’s great because I just have to me! I did not put up a front and pretend to be the perfect little girlfriend when we first started dating and they still liked me! So I just have to continue being myself. And learn more Korean phrases.

  Anybody know any FEMALE Korean tutors in the San Francisco area? Thanks!

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