December 16, 2011
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The Proper Rejection
I was reading on the xanga front page about how to properly reject someone. Apparently, you’re supposed to give them a reason WHY you are rejecting them. Not just say.. “no thank you.” Because you will drive that person insane so you should give them a peace of mine.
I remember in high school one of my best guy friend admitted over AIM that he liked me. So I frantically asked my guy cousin what to do! I was instructed to say, “I think you’re a nice guy and a good friend but I don’t like you like that.” He seemed to take it well and say thank you or something. Lol we stopped being friends or even acquaintances after that!
Personally I think when you’re in love with someone, it doesn’t matter what the reason is, because you’re going to think it’s something you can change. Like you’re ugly? plastic surgery! You’re too fat? Diet! You’re too dumb? go to school. Because for your love, at the end of the day you’ll do ANYTHING to be with them.
Obviously any reason you give is going to be a bad one. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by insulting them with a list of reasons why I don’t like them. And I don’t want anyone telling me my shortcomings (Unless you love me enough to help me improve myself and by that I mean you aren’t rejecting me)
If they don’t tell you… sure you can wonder over anguish the 1000000 reasons why they didn’t love you. Or you can do what I do, “He MUST be gay!”
Hahahaha just kidding. I don’t do that.
Would you rather know or not?
Comments (5)
Well, at least you can take notes and try to improve the next time around.
Pff. Suck it up and move on. It’s not like their opinion matters. Either they are or are not interested in you. Also, not to sound harsh to the rejected, but usually it’s attractiveness.
You don’t have to be brutally honest, just be straight forward. “Look, I appreciate the gesture, but I am not interested in anything at this present moment.” is better than, “aww you’re such a nice guy but I don’t see you that way. I’m sure you’ll find a lucky girl someday…” which is complete and utter bullshit if you don’t mean it.
But don’t running around with some new sausage 2 weeks later if you decided you’re not interested in anything at the present moment.
@Agent_Eric - But that’s the point, I mean.. is it better to lie and say you arent ready for a relationship (when you could be.. with someone else!) or just cut it off and not explain?
@youngvan - why would you try to beat around the bush? you can either lie now and break his heart later when he finds you’re with some other doode, or let him down softer and tell him what’s up. it ain’t pretty, but this ain’t a pretty world either.