June 13, 2013

• Engagement Rings

  This morning I got an email from Project Wedding about what you should do if you do not like the engagement ring you received, which made me chuckle. Then I went on to read stories about how much brides loved or did not love their engagement rings. I read a few where I thought they shouldn’t be getting married.

  For example, one bride said her fiance got her a big gaudy Cubic Zirconium  that said “MADE IN CHINA” on the inside of the band.. like what you can buy at Claire’s. She said it looked so fake and cheap, she wouldn’t even have chosen it for costume jewelry.  But then.. he goes and buy multiple used cars to build some type of special car ( he already owned one and wanted another one), which cost waaay more than her ring. Not that I think he should spend more money on the ring than his cars but for him to get her something so cheap and fake that she is EMBARRASSED to wear is sad. She would have just preferred a plain band. On top of that, she is scared to tell him because his feelings will get hurt and he will become angry at her. Red flags all over this story..

  Or another that got  her a yellow gold ring that was 13mm (I googled it, it’s over half an inch) for her tiny hands.. when she had wanted a dainty white gold ring. Or one that took her ring shopping and she chose what she liked, then he went and got her the exact opposite but later when her friend got engaged, he helped her friend’s fiance chose the ring she wanted.

  I think there is a difference between a brat who wanted a bigger diamond and a woman who’s fiance just outright, for whatever reason, did not listen at all. I get that for some couples, a  diamond engagement ring is silly in itself considering how not valuable diamond really, but that’s for a couple to decide together. I don’t think ANY decision should be made by one person and carried out without consideration whatsoever to how the other person will feel. 

  Luckily our own engagement story was a happy one. For years I had sent Won pictures of what I liked, solitaire, round, 6 prong, white gold. Can’t get any more simple than that. The actual diamond was up to him, I used to joke about it but when we started getting serious, I wasn’t going to ask for anything that would make him feel inferior nor superior. I just wanted him to be comfortable with what he would choose for me. So it made me really sad when he asked me how I felt if he got me what he could afford now then upgrade me later when he made more money. Sad, because #1. He still thought I was a gold digger after all these years and #2. I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER “upgrade” my engagement ring, to me it’s a symbol of how hard he worked to afford something for me, it is and will always be his “best” at this stamp in time. Even if in 5 years he can afford something 3 times as big and wanted to get it for me, I would happily take it, but I would never give up my current ring in exchange. 

  Long story short. I REALLY REALLY REALLY loved my ring. Everyone who saw it loved my ring. Even after some time, people would tell me it’s one of the few diamonds they’ve seen that they can’t get over how beautiful it is and compare all the diamonds they see to mine.Which makes me sooo happy and proud of my husband. I tell him all the time! I know he spent half a year through multiple jewelers searching for this one and he said he was just so beautiful compared to anything else he’d seen, including ones that had better specs. This one was just.. so sparkling. 

  Confession: Initially I had mixed feeling about the actual setting of the ring because it was more fancy than I had wanted, but after he told me how he specifically chose that one because he felt like I would want something fancy over something simple, I just dropped it. But he did offer if I wanted the more simple one I could go change it. Of course I did not have the heart to do it. And now, I love it more and more everyday. It seems Won knows me better than myself. 

  A lot of my girlfriends ask Won how he chose my ring because they were scared how to approach the subject with their boyfriend. And he advises them to just bring it up, and even if the guy acts like he isn’t listening, he is… or he SHOULD be. 

  We ended up going back to the same jeweler to design our wedding bands together. We just picked it up last week. LOVE it!! <3 <3 

  

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