January 15, 2014
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Baby Showers
So I belong to all these Mommies group on FB.. and today I learned you’re only really supposed to have a baby shower for your first baby to get presents from your friends. And when you have the next babies, you aren’t supposed to have anything or just a “sprinkle” because you’re already supposed to have stuff from the first baby…
Uh.. what the heck?! I always thought you had a baby shower to show all your girlfriend how cute you look at 7 months and for your friends to celebrate and play games with you.. I didn’t know the main purpose was to get gifts so you can raise your child. I mean, it’s nice to receive gifts but now I feel like that’s kinda greedy and messed up to expect things from your friends! With the amount of money you spend on the party, can’t you just buy your own stuff? Plus if I were to have a baby shower, I would do it to welcome ALL my kids, not just the first.
Anyhow, we’re not having a baby shower because we’re Vietnamese and all my girlfriends are in California anyways. We’re planning something really nice for when after the baby is born, that way everyone can meet Baby Choe in one trip up here. It will be baby baptism/Day Thang. Day Thang is a Vietnamese celebration of the baby’s One Month birthday, kind of like the Chinese red egg & ginger party. But I think the Chinese celebrate at 100 days.
A lot of my family are already planning their family vacation for Seattle that weekend and a couple of my friends who wanted to come up for the Baby Shower, I told them to just wait for the Day Thang celebration instead so they can actually meet Baby Choe! Of course we’ll have a baby registry up for people who want to buy gifts but it’s not like we expect people to. Plus the stuff we’ll REALLY want are like stuff that costs in the hundreds and we know nobody is gonna gift that so we’re going to be just be thankful for all the diapers and toys & clothes we’ll probably receive. Things that probably will cost the same as the party.
I’m trying to have our party at the Seattle Space Needle! Our wedding was already super Asian so we wanted to do an American style baby celebration. Space needle is perfect for all the people out of town plus I bet our Seattle friends haven’t even been up there yet. I know I’ll be too tired to decorate and plan for a nice party so I rather just do it somewhere fancy and let the venue and the view take care of the guests rather than me having to craft shit for everyone. Thoughtful, I know -____-
It was funny yesterday Won’s mom gave me 3 beautiful serving platters she bought for the “Baby Shower,” which she thinks we’re having at home. She was really surprised I said we’re trying to have it at the Space Needle because it’s expensive. True.. But I can’t imagine having it at home either. My in-laws have NEVER had house guests before so I can’t imagine them hosting a party for 30 – 50 people. I think they think we only have like 5 friends and they don’t know that my whole extended family are coming up along with my girlfriends from California. My in-laws are also OCD clean about everything and don’t like to entertain guests so I’m not sure who they were expecting to cook, set up, and clean the whole party up. I sure won’t be doing it at one month post birth! And I know they for sure won’t be happy doing it! Lol. Not to mention we’d have to buy all the backyard furniture like tables and chairs. It’ll be easier to just do it outside the home for this event. And we can do birthday parties here when I’m more physically able to handle parties.
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Makes a lot more sense to do the 1-month celebration instead! My sister is postponing hers to two months so the baby can build a better immune system and to fight off all the nasty germs around! And yeah, I didn’t like the idea of a baby shower. I liked the part where people got together to play games and have fun!
THat’s actually not a bad idea … but I feel like the newer the baby, the more exciting it is! Hahahahaha