January 17, 2012

• Marriage

  Anytime I read a front page blog about marriage, it seems to be so negative. And the comments are just so beyond negative. I wonder if these people really mean what they say or if they are just making excuses for how unhappy they are.

  I guess I am like 100% biased because I work in the wedding industry. And I think it normal to spend $100k on your big day because everyone I know does!

  Anyhow, no do not spend money you don’t have but if you have it, then you should spend it unapologetically. I mean, just because I cannot afford a $10k dress doesn’t mean I should hate on someone who does and tell her that she is wasting her money and should be buying a house. Who is to say she doesn’t already own a hundred houses and gives like $1 million dollars more to charity than I do every year. Therefore, yes, go for the $10k dress. Sure, when you say it doesn’t make sense to spend so much on ONE DAY and you would rather have a house or a car or something, it makes it seem like that one day is too expensive. But if I can afford all 3, then my wedding day is not a stupid investment.

  And as surprising as it is, as vain and self centered and delusional as everyone thinks I am, when I think about my wedding day, it’s not about ME. I think about my GUESTS! I do not follow the philosophy that a wedding day/marriage is about JUST THE COUPLE and that it’s MY wedding and I’m going to do what I DAMN well want despite everyone. I view marriage as a joining of lives. Meaning, when I get married I will become a part of his life. His family, his gym, his jiu jitsu, his work, his everything. And he to mine. It does not mean I will leave my life and go live with him on some deserted island just by ourselves. We will be joining our lives together, the good and the bad.

  When I dream about my wedding day (which is like every minute of my life that I am awake), I don’t care as much about my dress or my shoes as much as I care about who will be there and what kind of hotel I will book for them and what kind of food will I serve for them and what time of schedule will allow them the most time to rest and explore San Francisco. I mean, I want to invite EVERY FREAKING ONE to my wedding. Weddings are a GREAT time line of your life. All my friends and mentors through the stages of my life, relatives from all over the world. At every family wedding I’ve ever attended, I’ve always met more relatives that I didn’t even know existed before! I want to share my new husband with EVERYONE. And my husband will get like a condensed version of my 25 years of life (25 being the age I want to marry Hahahahha. pressure.)

  I can’t wait to be in a marriage. To me it’s stable structure, a life with someone I love. I cant wait to have kids and be a mom. I mean, I grew up with a family. I want to live my life with a family of my own. I want to be somewhere I absolutely belong and need and am needed.

  I forget where I was going with this…

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