January 6, 2012

• Rants at 2 in the Morning :)

  1. Cheating. As you guys know I run a tight ship (is that the expression?) when it comes to my relationship. Everyone thinks I am like the Nazi girlfriend. Sadly, you guys are right! I cannot freaking stand the mere thought of being cheated on. I was reading through some blogs and found this and just had to share!

  An sms that starts with "How's your day?" is nowhere NEAR innocuous and NOT appropriate when it's asked by someone who is not close to you.
  
  It is an INVITATION to start getting to know you better, and if you reply with intention to feel good about yourself from the positive attention from this person, YOU ARE CHEATING.
  
  Have some balls. Don't reply, or reply with the correct vibe, ie, "Not bad, spending the day cuddling with my girlfriend. Life is good. I'm glad I'm not the cheating sort. So wait your turn bitch."

  From Xia Xue's blog. (I don't know how to correctly site someone but I tried!)

  When Won and I were first dating, he would get texts and FB postings from cute girls who called him "oppa" and asked for seemingly harmless things. Did I bite my tongue and pretend to be all kool-aide about it? Hell to the no!! (Well, maybe I did for like a month so he wouldn't be scared off yet) If she wasn't his real little sister or heck, even Korean she had NO business in calling him "oppa" or anything else but "Won" or as his friends so affectionately call him, "niggah." I put an end to that.  I've made it very very very clear  that I have no room for negotiation of any sorts when it comes to other girls.

  Lucky Won, I have no guy friends to begin with.

  2. Constructive Criticism. MY A$$. I hate it when one of my makeup artists friends do photo shoot where they are venturing into photography and take the photos themselves and post it on FB to show off the makeup. Sure, the photo may not have the perfect lighting and the model may not have the perfect pose, but the makeup is bombtastic. And everyone is all complimenting her makeup work then some high and mighty (in their own head) photographer comes along and criticizes her for the way the model's facial expression isn't perfect. Like, what the hell. So patronizing! Totally KILLED THE BUZZ.

  If nobody freaking asks you for your humble honest opinion or complimented you on your model facial expression training skills then keep the comment to yourself! And don't hide behind the "I'm so great so I am going to give constructive criticism and you better take it." Because I'm pretty sure you only did it to make yourself feel better by putting someone else down. It happened to me once. And the photographer's work looked like SH**. The LAST thing they should be doing was giving me unwanted advice. So tacky!

  If you don't have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything. Or if you REALLY wanted to help that person out by giving constructive criticism you would phrase it in a nice way like, "Great job on makeup and lighting! This picture would have been even better if the model relaxed her lips a tiny bit to show off your lipstick." or "I'd be happy to show you some cool tricks to help your models relax more for your future!" See? So nice! Now I will be dying for your help!

  3. My mom got really upset that my brother and I did not remember it was my grandpa's death anniversary and made us say some really boring prayers for him. She started crying about how we were going to forget her after she's gone...so dramatic.  I've never met my grandpa before, he died before I was born. So you can't blame me that I'm not exactly as passionate about his anniversaries. Don't get me wrong, I'm not like some ancestor hating little monster. But I like to think of my ancestors as a collective being. Like I'll pray for them all at once on Christmas or something. But I'm not going to remember each and every one of their death anniversaries. There's 4 grandparents.. who I don't know personally (deprived, I know). My mom got really mad at us.

  Then my brother was like... "So... when was YOUR grandpa's death date?" Hahahahahaha she stopped being so upset after that cuz she had no idea. Then she was saying how are our kids going to remember her after she's gone. My brother said, "don't worry, we take pictures and videos now a days so they can see how you look like." Besides, I think my mom will be around to help raise our kids so they'll know her as a loving and spoiling grandma. Sad to think none of them will know my dad. Awwww, I'm sad now. Even my own husband will not know what my dad is like!!!!     

  Even I don't really remember my dad in full. I remember his life after the stroke and how his smile was crooked and he walked with a limp and how he would get colder than I did. And I remember him from the time when I was in preschool and we would race down the block and he would always beat me by a mile then at the very last minute let me win. But I have trouble remembering the years in between those two periods. That's almost 15 years of memory loss of my father. How can I expect my children and grandchildren who never met him before to remember him in their daily lives.

  How do any of us make our families generations down know or remember us? We can't. If people don't know you in real life they can't have a memory of you. We are all mere mortals.

  Goodnight.

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